IT’S NOT YOU! with Author Sara Eckel



For our first show of the new year and to kick off our second season (!), we’re recapping what we learned about dating in 2015 and setting dating goals for the upcoming year. Then we’re joined by It’s Not You author Sara Eckel, whose book dispels 27 myths single women have thrust at them constantly. Are you too negative, too liberated, too picky, too intimidating or too desperate? Do you “not really want a relationship” or should you “have married that guy”?! Find out what Sara’s learned from her studies of relationships and relationship self-help books.

Finally, we award the asshole of the week award to an online dater who sent the following to Jacqueline in an OKCupid message: “Please god hear my pray. I hope this women gets brutally raped & treated like the bitch that she is!” Hear us talk about how this is, sadly, not uncommon for women to receive in the online dating world, and how that makes Ben feel.


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“You’re too picky. Just find a good-enough guy and you’ll be fine.”

“You’re too desperate. If men think you need them, they’ll run scared.”

“You’re too independent. Smart, ambitious women always have a harder time finding mates.”

“You have low self-esteem. You can’t love someone else until you’ve learned to love yourself.”

“You’re too needy. You can’t be happy in a relationship until you’ve learned to be happy on your own.”

It’s Not You challenges these myths, encouraging singletons to stop picking apart their personalities and to start tapping into their own wisdom about who and what is right for them. Supported by the latest psychological and sociological research, as well as  interviews with people who have experienced longtime singledom, Eckel creates a strong and empowering argument to understand and accept that there’s no one reason why you’re single—you just are.

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