February 8, 2015
It’s our VERY FIRST VALENTINE’S DAY SHOW! And in celebration, we’re getting cozy in the studio… just the two of us. First, we tackled some super serious questions that experts (pulled together by theNew York Times) suggest every couple face before a potential walk down the aisle. What do they tell us about our compatibility as friends, and how might they help those taking a very serious step. Then we hit up the stinky side of sex: the kinds that get into your sheets, saturate your mattress, and don’t wanna leave. How can we free our burdoires of those kinda memories, and what can we buy to make sure playtime in the bedroom is a bit neater from here on out?
We’re both romantics. We both have histories of (only sometimes!) falling so head-over-heels into someone that “practicality” is a no-show. But when in the throws of romance, what are the ABC’s that should be assessed before rings and parties and mortgages become a reality?
In 2006, the New York Times published a pretty bang-up list of questions couples should ask before tying the knot. 6 years later, they followed up with some advice from the experts and a few questions that are even more practical than the first go around. We figure they’re real smart over there at that dang newspaper, so we’re gonna ask each other some of their questions as if we were totally in love (!), and then talk about their significance on the kind of deep, overthinking level we’re partial to.
Will we be madly in love by the end of the show? Probably not. But it’ll be fun.
Questions Couples Should Ask
(Or Wish They Had) Before Marrying
from the New York Times
- Have we discussed whether or not to have children, and if the answer is yes, who is going to be the primary care giver?
- Do we have a clear idea of each other’s financial obligations and goals, and do our ideas about spending and saving mesh?
- Have we discussed our expectations for how the household will be maintained, and are we in agreement on who will manage the chores?
- Have we fully disclosed our health histories, both physical and mental?
- Is my partner affectionate to the degree that I expect?
- Can we comfortably and openly discuss our sexual needs, preferences and fears?
- Will there be a television in the bedroom?
- Do we truly listen to each other and fairly consider one another’s ideas and complaints?
- Have we reached a clear understanding of each other’s spiritual beliefs and needs, and have we discussed when and how our children will be exposed to religious/moral education?
- Do we like and respect each other’s friends?
- Do we value and respect each other’s parents, and is either of us concerned about whether the parents will interfere with the relationship?
- What does my family do that annoys you?
- Are there some things that you and I are NOT prepared to give up in the marriage?
- If one of us were to be offered a career opportunity in a location far from the other’s family, are we prepared to move?
- Does each of us feel fully confident in the other’s commitment to the marriage and believe that the bond can survive whatever challenges we may face?